Call me a prude. Call me a Debby Downer. Call me whatever, but I still think that making jokes about internalized misogyny and spreading it on Facebook is not something to laugh about.
As I stated in my long-winded reply to this post, a man should never feel like he is entitled to a relationship with a woman because he was nice to her. Being kind and respectful to others does not make you super boyfriend material— being kind and respectful to others is an act of BASIC HUMAN DECENCY. And if you’re going to post a status like this about your female friend, then you’re clearly pretty lacking in that category too. Being nice to someone to get something from them does not make you a nice person, it makes you a manipulative one. If he was really her close friend, and he truly cared enough about her to want to be in a relationship with her, he would have accepted that she simply wasn’t interested in him romantically, and supported her through her other relationships. If he felt like he had been wronged by her, then he clearly did not think that spending time with her for the sake of spending time with her was a worthy cause— he invested time in her for another reason. I don’t think that it would be too far of a stretch to say that he wanted to be compensated for his time sexually. Being nice to a woman so you can get in her pants makes you just as much of a douchebag as her “far less qualified” “alcoholic” applicants.
And yeah, maybe I’m over-reacting, but someone has to make up for the thousands of people who are not reacting at all. Because let me tell you- not reacting is the same as condoning that sort of behavior. While the words themselves may be harmless enough, they are reinforcing a culture of internalized misogyny, and I don’t think that that’s okay. Call me naive and idealistic, but I think that we are smart enough to come up with jokes about things that are actually funny.
Racism is no longer socially acceptable in America- thus, racist jokes are not socially acceptable, and people don’t laugh at them. If we want our children to grow up in a country where sexism is not acceptable either, we cannot allow the proliferation of sexist jokes either. Usually I don’t call people out by name, but if you’re friends with Jose Luis Salazar Espita on Facebook, you should let him know that the link that he posted is not funny, and is enabling discrimination to continue to occur.
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